Thursday, September 22, 2011

How did that happen?

A week since my last post, already? I had such high hopes for this blog!

Turns out, I hate uploading or finding photos. And my priorities right now are not this blog, but rather my husband, kids, and own education. Who knew it meant blogging would go by the wayside so soon!

But I had a few things to share.

FIRST: New method of behavior modification
We wrote a set of family rules during FHE, and the kids actually came up with them. Every time the kids break a rule, they have to "turn a card". They go from "Super" to "OK" to "lose a bedtime story" to "lose toys and books in bed" to "no computer time", etc. Every morning when they wake up, if yesterday's card was super or OK they put a pompom ball in an empty apple juice jug. When it's full, we take them bowling! So far, the excitement has not worn off. We'll see how motivating bowling proves to be.

SECOND: Making my priorities show
I made the decision to read my scriptures and general conference talks instead of blogs. I still have my feed reader with 10 or so dedicated reads, which I check a couple times a week. I also made the decision to stop watching shows on the computer during the day, something I did a lot of in the old apartment when we still had two computers. Now we're down to one it's harder to do.
And it makes me happier! The scriptures and prayer are bringing a light into my life with which I not well-acquainted. It's lovely, really. Some days are harder than others, and I don't always keep with it, but when I do my family is happier and I am happier and it's easier to work hard instead of laze about.

Amazing.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Fatigue

I know what I need to do. I'm tired and don't want to do it.

I know the dishes need to be washed, but I want to write an e-mail.

I know the bathrooms need to be cleaned, but I want to play UNO.

I know that dinner needs to be cooked, and I'd prefer it be from scratch and healthy, but frozen pizza (cheaper than takeout) is easy.

How do you get the motivation to do what needs to be done? I'm a mother who knows, but do I know enough? It's not motivating me to do everything. I know I can't be perfect, but I don't know what's acceptable . . .

Today was a depressive day. I just wanted to wear yoga pants, eat cookies, and sleep. Or read a book, since I have young children who need supervision. But I refrained! I did the dishes! I took Guy to preschool! I went to the library and Trader Joe's and Ace Hardware with kidlets in tow! And it helped.

I once heard this advice, "It's okay to feel depressed. It's not okay to 'do' depressed." Meaning, you have to shower, get dressed, and tend to normal life, even if you want to cry the whole time. And it helped.

This post was brought to you by "up-one-day-down-the-next-where-she-stops-nobody-knows" Emily.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Linky link time!

Fruit snacks made from zucchini and kool-aid packets. I kid you not. All you need is a dehydrator, or a sunny spot, I imagine.
http://thespasticcat.blogspot.com/2011/09/zucchini-fruit-snacks-yum.html

If your kids are really young (I mean REALLY young) an interesting read on no-nonsense parenting regarding picky eaters.
http://fimby.tougas.net/raising-non-picky-eaters

Baked chocolate doughnuts. Can't wait to try this recipe!
http://www.laraferroni.com/2010/09/16/baked-chocolate-doughnuts/

7 Ways to Fight Slavery at the Grocery Store
http://news.change.org/stories/7-ways-to-fight-slavery-at-the-grocery-store

Enriching Your Marriage, James E. Faust
http://lds.org/ensign/2007/04/enriching-your-marriage?lang=eng

Marriage and Divorce, David B. Haight
http://lds.org/general-conference/1984/04/marriage-and-divorce?lang=eng



And in unfortunate news, Josh's Virginia dad left for Kabul for a two-year civilian post this past Sunday night. His mother left for a business trip on Thursday morning. Thursday night, the basement flooded with 18" of muddy water that literally broke the door frame as it forced its way into the house. They've lost all of the furniture that was in the basement (two people are living there at present) and a fair number of other items as well. Josh's dad's been working for over a year on making an apartment down there, and all the cabinetry, baseboards, and doors are ruined. Luckily he was smart and the drywall is still dry and there's no carpet to be removed.

His 18-year-old brother is doing remarkably well considering the strain, but it makes me think of all the people who suffer from the extremes of weather.