How to Engage a Child's Cooperation
This will be fast, because these techniques are pretty self-explanatory.
When faced with a child who doesn't feel like listening to your instructions or remembering to follow the rules, the following are ways to engage cooperation.
1. Describe what you see (or the problem)
2. Give information without accusing (Don't start the sentence with "You're doing" or "You did")
3. Say it with a one-word reminder
4. Describe what you feel (I don't like tripping over shoes!)
5. Write a note. You can make it humorous
I really got the feeling as I read this book that I talk too much. My kids simply hear too many words coming out of my mouth. How can they know which ones to listen to, if I'm blathering all the time.
I recently started giving the boys 10 seconds to comply before I would repeat an instruction. Amazingly, I am reminding less by being more patient. And they don't have to listen to me harp on them.
The other tip here is to not make it personal. No attacks! There's no room for accusations and derogatory tones in a home where we want to encourage the Holy Spirit to dwell.
So tell me your best tips for getting a kid to listen and do what you say.